Visiting a Buddhist center and missing the teachings.

A couple years ago (Ocober 2015) I decided to explore more of Buddhism here in Colorado.  I made it a point to meet other Buddhists and visit Buddhist centers.  Since I started up the meditation group (affectionately called 'our Sangha Circle' I have brought back this idea and am working on visiting more in the near future.  

This is one of those accounts. 

So I decided to look up and visit other groups in the Denver area and see what meditation practices there are out there.  So I started generally and looked up "Meditation in Denver".

I found the place near the downtown Denver area and liked what it seemed to offer.  It was located above a coffee shop, I arrived early at a place called 'The Bardo' (what a great name for a funky coffee shop!!!).  The space upstairs for meditation was simple as one would expect, with the typical posters and a book shelf or two.  There were sitting mats stacked in the corner and some giant photos on the wall.  Yet, none of 'The Buddha'... hmmm.

That's fine.

I sat with the small group, each had their own mala and sat ready to begin.  The leader of the group began by espousing how original this teaching was and how it was the only real teaching and the direct teaching of Buddhism and of Buddhists!  

I thought, this is great!

Then the discussion began with a little historical info as well as some of the backstory of the main teacher.   But not The Buddha... I guess the founder of this class or system...

Again, that's fine...

Soon it went to a familiar list of aspects and concepts that I knew well...
But wait...

Wait a minute.

The discussion began with Refuge, refuge in the familiar 'Triple Gem' or 'Three jewels' however it usually is discussed... This one, however had a new addition...
A 'fourth' Gem... the Lama...

Ahhh so here we go.

Original teachings, directly back to the Buddha... with a Lama... ?

I understand Vajrayana, I have studied it well.  I have also left it on the shelf because of the Lama aspect of devotion of the mind and body to the Lama, the main or root Guru, a person...
This is tightly woven into the fabric of 'Lineage' or Buddhist Pedigree and it really seems to be rather bunk.   Here is why.

When you read an article (scholarly) there is a back page or few that have references, its where that information is from.  That way you can go back and look at where that writer got the information and go back from there to better understand the process and thinking that went into that article.   Similarly we have a list of teachers, somehow taken as going back directly to the Buddha... Then something happened...

This is why when you read a sutra, or even hear it spoken about you often hear (at least should) 'THUS I HEARD'  This way the listener knows it is a reference to work done by another, not 'yours'.  As is an honorific thing to do to make sure the teachings stay consistent.  This way if and when you become more familiar with the teachings of THE Buddha you can find and pick out those that offer an eloquent yet plagiarized speech of 'their teachings'.  

After the councils and the schisms and such, early Buddhism grew some branches... and moved to new lands.
I understand this to be a cultural tweaking of the teachings to be better understood by the new culture. As I have heard before, Buddhism was basically Hinduism for export. (Alan Watts)
Minus the thousands of gods and other deities, a refinement of sorts to occured with Buddhism to bring it to the commoner, not just the Brahman.   Remember, the Brahman class is that of priests and ONLY they could make offerings, do ceremonies and have direct connection with the divine.  This probably reminds you of another 'church' that insisted on keeping the teachings in a language only the priests could read. 

SO this all culminated in a bunch of groups that were 'official' and then some 'unofficial' ones in Buddhism.  Teachers sprang up all over the place stating THEY had the REAL info.  So something had to happen.  This was the beginning of what we call 'lineage'.  

Lineage is basically a 'brand' of Buddhist teachings.  It comes from a line of teachers that have been bequeathed specific knowledge, often in a 'transmission' which is nothing more than 'hey, I think you are good student, so take over 'the' business ok?'  You can teach what I taught and say I taught you and it will all be kosher and official like!..

When people get too attached (oops there's that word!) to a lineage, they can miss and be misguided by whomever they call their teacher.  This reminds me of an old teaching that was shown in Bruce Lee's 'Enter the Dragon' where he is teaching a student and says 

"It is like a finger pointing a way to the moon. Don't concentrate on the finger or you will miss all that heavenly glory.” - Bruce Lee.

This also reminds me of another teaching of basic Buddhism.  It attempts to thwart following the 'wrong teacher' with a great little discourse called the Advice to the Kalamas Sutra.  In that Sutra the Buddha explains how to test any teaching and use it for oneself.  Not being tied to 'a' teacher or 'a' book seems a pretty good way to study.  By using only one source you can end up with lots more misunderstanding, even though it is quite authoritative.  Which seems to be the issue with the class I attended...

Then I thought..
Wait, what kind of ego trip am I on?

I spent the next minutes making sure I watched my attitude and thoughts, realizing that these people are trying to do the very same thing as I... Reduce their own suffering and improve their understand what it means and to really be in 'the teachings.  Now...
Once I let go, it was a much better place to visit and the people were much more friendly.  I never did tell them I was a minister or have taught and practiced nearly 20 years.  That would have done little.  I had learned that that only opens a 'can of worms' and much suspicion. 

It was a good group. 

But this is what I learned.

The practice you do is the practice you do.  Look at it, test it, review it.  Search more...
It really doesn't matter what lineage, school, teacher, Lama, Guru, Poobah, or what ever you follow. 

The proof is in how it is really working.  

That is the hard part.

Be prepared to let go of that teacher or book at a moment's notice.  Drop it.  Develop your mind and soon you will not NEED that, but you can always go back to it as a reference and cross check.  Show respect and you will get it, look for understanding and you will find it.
In the process of letting go, really pay attention to your way of doing that, what is YOUR motivation? What are you trying to do, why?  Then you can be more confident in yourself in your reality.  Then you may really see it as it is.  Not as you think it should be, not as you were told it should be.  Stop following, you learn and do it all by yourself.  Know the way by travelling it.

That reminds me of another quote I have heard from Buddhism.  'When you use a raft to get across a river or stream, you leave it at the shore and continue on land, not carrying it on your head.'  (paraphrased).

The Buddha as he lie on his right side under a tree waiting to die told his followers, 'All things are changeable and not lasting', and later told them... 'be like a lamp unto yourselves' Shine your own way, use the light to see for yourself. 

Just a couple thoughts is all...

With sincere metta and gassho, bows.  

Rev. Sean

Buddhist holidays

 

Buddhist holidays

From strict dogmatic adherence to casual contemplation, this list of Buddhist holidays is derived from many souces.  Since Buddhism developed over millenia in very diverse cultures it has some varitation in the practice and observance of the important milestones and historical dates followed by each group.  Here we can contemplate the days on the most common celebration day, that is of the Full Moon.  The moon is a constant reminder of time and change and it marks all great events.  Only in this moderna ge where we have all but abandoned the lunar calendarSome of these will last for the entire month (from full moon to full moon) or until the ‘new moon’ in some cases. These are all based on the Sri Lankan calendar as they are Theravada (the vehicle of the elders) it is a more orthodox teaching.  There are many other holidays that can overlap, and I have added notes on those.  It is not important to celebrate strictly one way or another but to keep the intention and essence of the teachings and observe the basics of it as a form of community and personal development along the centered path.

Duruthu:  Full moon in January This commemorates the first visit of the Buddha to Sri Lanka.  It is celebrated with fasting and observance of the extended precepts.  Although it is said that the Buddha travelled to Sri Lanka three times, this is the commemoration of the first visit some three years after he attained enlightenment. 

Bodhi Day:  Magha: This is the full moon of February, and it commemorates ‘Sangha Day’ or a day to revere famous previous monks and nuns or to appreciate the local monks and nuns.  This is done by attending teachings, merit-making activities and alms giving.  On this day it is also customary to follow the extended precepts. Think of it as Buddhist ‘All Saints Day’.   It is a day that historically is attributed to a time when 1,250 followers gathered without being summoned. It is a day to practice patience, and non-doing of evil. 

Vessantara: (Medin Poya) The fill moon of March is a day to invoke protection from spirits, It is a time for relaxation and enjoyment, we listen to stories or music Think of it as a kind of Halloween for Buddhists without the costumes but with the treats. There is a transfer of merit for deceased relatives.  The recitation of the Vessantara Jataka is common. 

Bak: The full moon of April marks the second visit of the Buddha to Sri Lanka, in his fifth year after enlightenment. It is a day that the Buddha helped calm a feud between two groups of ‘Nagas’ (basically snake beings).  It is a day to practice calm and non-hatred.

Vesak:  The full moon of the fifth month (May) is by far the biggest day on the calendar, think of it as a Buddhist ‘Christmas’ where we celebrate the birth, awakening and Parinibbana of Siddhartha Gautama.  All of these happened under a tree and so this day is a day to commemorate the Buddha as well as appreciate nature and all it can give us as well as our interdependence to it.  The traditions are usually of eating and bathing a baby Buddha statue who stands with lotuses with his right forefinger pointing to the sky.  

Poson: This full moon of June is celebrated in Sri Lanka as the day that Buddhism first arrived at the island nation in the 3^rd century (BCE).  The monk Mahinda Thero introduced Buddhism to the island in 236BCE it is a time of following the precepts and contemplating the teachings.   In some traditions it is the Medicine Buddha Puja which is a time to focus on health and healing and making offerings.

Asalha/Esala: It is the day celebrating the first turning of the Dharma wheel to the Buddha’s first five disciples. On this full moon of July, it is said the Buddha visited the ‘abode of the gods; here he taught them.  It is a day to teach others, not by speaking necessarily but by example.   Also, this is when a relic of the Buddha arrived in Kandy, a place where the “temple of the tooth” is.  It was brought to Sri Lanka by Prince Danta and princess Hemamali from India the kingdom of Kalinga.  So that they would get it and a sapling of the Bodhi tree, princess Hemamali hid the tooth relic in her hair until they arrived in Kandy.

Ulambana/Hungry ghost/Nikini:  The full moon of August in this calendar is celebrated by remembering the “first council” (Sanhayana) where the monks all met to discuss the future of Buddhist teachings right after the Buddha’s death.  This was led by his devoted disciple Ananda who had flawlessly remembered all the teachings.  Most Chinese, Taoist and other Mahayana groups hold remembrance days, like a Memorial Day for all those that have passed.  It is a time of reflection and the realization of impermanence and change.  ulambana means 'resucing those that are hanginig upside down' in sansckrit. 

Binara: The full moon of September marks the day women were to become ‘Bhikkhunis’ or the order of nuns.  This is a day to appreciate the contributions of women monastics and learn from this as a time of empowerment and acceptance.  Think of this as like a ‘Mother’s Day’ but to appreciate nuns.

Kathina /Vap: This full moon of October is the day that monks traditional get their new robes.  It is a donation ceremony to the monks and nuns to help take care of them.  In many countries it Is called ‘Kathina’.  

Il:  The full moon of November marks the end of the rainy season in Southeast Asia, in Buddhism

Unduvap:  This is the remembrance of the sacred Bo tree (Bodhi tree) that was brought from India to Sri Lanka.  The day to celebrate trees, nature and just sitting under them.  This is on the full moon of December. 

Meditation in a psychiatric hospital setting.

 This is an extension of another blog post I read from Ven. Thubten Jigme on the same subject. https://thubtenchodron.org/2016/12/rebalance-calm/   This one however is from the trenches. 
I actually work at a psychiatric hospital teaching meditation as an activity therapy. 
In May of 2022 I began at Denver Springs Mental Health Hospital.  Denver Springs is an inpatient facility that provides 'evidence-based, transformational care for a broad range of mental health and addiction concerns in a compassionate, comfortable environment' (From denversprings.com).  Facility has four wards with almost 100 beds.  It serves in one unit, 'Sunrise', children with acute mental health issues from the ages of 12 to 17, a second unit, 'Willows' for adults in the same predicament.  Then there is 'Cedars' for detoxification and addiction and finally the "Heroes" unit called 'Meadows' for active and retired military, police, fire, first responders and medical staff.  
The mission of Denver Springs is 'Changing People's Lives'.  and is its registered motto. 
The vision is to transform the delivery of behavioral health services and provide a solution to the largest challenge of this generation, access to mental health care.  Specifically by;
   

• Engage with patients, families, employees, communities, healthcare providers, and health insurers to increase access to behavioral healthcare

• Provide a continuum of care that delivers the right care, in the right place, at the right time, at the right cost

• Partner to integrate behavioral and medical healthcare to improve the health of populations and reduce the per capita cost of healthcare

• Be nationally known for providing high quality, consistent, evidence-based, and innovative care  

• Decrease suicide rates, decrease addiction-related deaths, reverse the decline in life expectancy, and improve productivity in the communities we serve

• Destigmatize mental illness and addiction, which are conditions that transcend race, gender, age, and socioeconomic class

Denver Springs' values (which I have on the back of my ID badge to work at the hospital are to...
We serve as compassionate healers for those suffering from mental illness and/or addiction
We respect patients, families, co-workers, and our communities
We provide a safe environment for our patients, employees, and visitors
We deliver quality services as defined by nationally recognized metrics and outcome measures

We strive for continuous improvement in all that we do
Compassion
Respect
Safety
Quality
Innovation

So what is it like working there? 

I teach in each of the wards once or twice a week.  I offer guidance as a secular meditation teacher even though I was classically trained by Buddhist monks and ordained as a lay priest in 2006.  I have taught, practiced and learned in Sri Lanka, Thailand, Japan, North Vietnam and the United States. 

I focus on the basics of Buddhist teachings and weave them into the practice in a way that does not alienate or trigger those whom are either agnostic, Christian, Muslim, Hindu, Jewish or even Buddhist.  Meditation is indeed found in each of these practices and not too far from Buddhist practice as I have observed and studied over the past 35+ years.

I focus my teachings on a few basic concepts of meditation and mindfulness; Observing the breath and mind patterns, empathy and compassion, the body scan, gratitude and unattachment.  

Sometimes the class is filled with motivated people that want to get better and find a new way to interact with their minds and the world using meditation as a possible tool.  Other times there are disturbances from some that are too ill at the time to practice or begin to find difficulty in sitting or being still during a session.  This is why I break the classes up into small bite-sized bits, focusing on returning to the breath, the realization and return to practice after a disruption and being intouch but not overtaken by the mind. 

In the class I often tell them the benefits of working together and practicing that way.  The mind is a rough neighborhood, I tell them, best to go with some backup.  

Although nearly all of the people I teach or guide have had some experience with meditation and mindfulness it is important that I start from the beginning each time.  Some used apps like 'Calm', 'Insight Timer', 'Headspace' etc. and others were exposed to the practice by teachers and therapists but few continued on with a practice. 

For that reason, I started holding classes at my private office.  Not necessarily for the people that attended Denver Springs but for anyone else that is interested.  I found quickly the only difference in the reasons TO meditate were in the location.  

The 10 things that slow your practice and their remedies.

The ten things that slow your practice and ability to find peace.  These are also things that can get in the way of (i.e. hinder) of your progression in pracatice.  

These are called he hindrances or fetters.  Fetter is like a shackle, you are bound to it and cannot move easily with them on.  A hindrance is something that slows your progress as well, like mud can hinder your movement.  They are kind of used interchangably in Buddhist teachings.  Generally there are The Five Fetters and The Ten Hindrances but the five fetters are actually covered in the hindrances and are known as the five lower fetters, 1 through 5. 

Now there are also remedies for each which I will aslo go over. This all comes from the Abidhamma Sutra and the Angittara Nikaya 10:13 

There are differing orders to this list depending on the source but I have kept it simple and from the most common teachings as I have seen them.   

1. (Sakkaya Ditthi) The belief that we are 'solid' and 'separate' beings.  The attachment of the ego and THE self.  The idea of 'I', 'Me', 'Mine' are also part of this.  The remedy is to learn and practice the Annata-Lakkhana sutra theory.  This is the second teaching of the Buddha, part of the Samyutta Nikay or 'grouped discourses'.  

2. (Vicikiccha) This is doubt and skepticism of the Buddha, Dharma and Sangha.  At times it also includes the disciplinary rules, the future (where will I go, what will I become), the past (what have I been?), both past and future (how am I changing?) and dependent origination.  This kind of doubt is like being lost, we need a map, that map is the teachings of the Buddha (The Dharma) as well as the development of faith.  The Advice to The Kalamas is a good source to work on this one.  https://www.accesstoinsight.org/tipitaka/an/an03/an03.065.soma.html

3. (Silabbataparamasa).  Attachments to rituals, rites and ceremonies. Thinking that participation or performing them can emancipate us is incorrect.  It is a tool, for sure, but it is our own effort that brings us to happiness, not prayer and offerings. (Anguttara Nikaya V, 43), To have a good life, one must not simpley pray but follow a path that is 'good'. 

4. (Kama raga), Sensual desire (known as Tahna) to have things different from how they ARE.  The practice to remedy this is letting go, non attachment. 

5. (Pathigha) 'to hit' or to have ill will, enmity, anger, hatred.  The remedy is to practice loving kindness (The Metta Bhavana). 

6. (Rupa raga), Being attached to form and to desire being reborn in (Rupaoka) or as a formed being. The practice of course is to work on the Annatalakkhana Sutra deeply. 

7. (Arupa raga), Being attached to the formless realms, i.e. heaven or 'Pure Land'. 

8. (Mana) Conceit or comparing one's self or pride or a feeling or superiority to others OR a feeling of inferiority to others as well.  The idea is that comparing and judging of others or one's self hinders you.  the remedy of this is not only sympathetic joy, but also metta. 

9. (Uddhavva) Being confused and restless, distracted (Dhammasangani 439).  The opposite of being 'on point' think of distractions of someone that suffers from ADHD or similar.  The remedy is mindfulness of thinking.  http://www.abhidhamma.com/Dhammasangani_Scan.pdf

10. (Avijja) Ignorance of the Four Noble Truths. The study of the first discourse of the Buddha is the remedy of this. (the Dhammacakkappavattana sutta) http://www.buddhanet.net/pdf_file/damachak.pdf

Now the first five of these have been eradicated (surpassed or eliminated) by those that are called  a 'non-returner' or Anagami.  Which is unusual because they are said to be reborn in a heanvenly realm and attains enlighenment there.   What about the 7th one?  Arupa Raga?  They themselves are NOT attached to that but it occurs to or for them because of their practice, actions (karma). 

The 'once-returner' or Sakadagami has eradicated the first three and have weakened the 4th and 5th ones.  They are reborn in either the human or heavenly realms (devas) and will go on to enlighenment from that point. 

The 'stream-enterer' of Sotapanna has eradicated the first three also and will have the opportunity to be born nor more than 7 more times as a human, or deva then go on to nirvana from there.

It is not only that eradication means to understand them and to logically accept the hindrances and their remedies but to really BE that, and stay within that ideal existence.  This is  why it is difficult to find people that have done this or are considered a stream enterer or once or non returner.  Almost never have I seen someone refer to themselves or others as those.  This is probably because of the 8th hindance of comparing or judging.   One does not want to be prideful and say they are a once-returner etc, or have lable someone else as those.  A good story is the Simile With Water, whcih explains the different attributes people have for practice.  https://suttacentral.net/an7.15/en/sujato?lang=en&layout=plain&reference=none&notes=asterisk&highlight=false&script=latin

The voices of friends.

 I have been teaching meditaiton at a psychiatric hospital for just over a year now.  This place; Denver Springs in Englewood Colorado, it has four wards and about 98 beds.  

There are different wards, one for adolesents aged 12 to 17, an acute care adult group, a detoxification group of adults coming off drugs or alcohol and need help stabilizing and what we call a 'hero's' group of active military, first responders and vets.  I teach a class to each of them every week.  

One thing I found interesting is the internal chatter we all have.  From that internal voice that says 'you are so dumb' etc or those we call 'CAH' or commanding audtory hallucinations, where people hear their internal voices tell them to do things like hurt themselves or others.  In our society here in the West we find that most people see 'hearing voices' as an illness and something to be ashamed of and really in need of despirate treatment, medication and sequestration from others.  

Recently we had a young boy, perhaps 16 who was having many voice commands to hurt himself.  I could tell from talking to him he was worried and concerned as these seemed to be totally out of his control and impossible for him to understand.  His voices were troubling and he used 'self medication' i.e. drugs to help him quell them.  This often backfired and he would get worse. 

I, personally have had all sorts of voices I have heard.  I often speak of them in my classes and figured they were normal and everyone had at least some experience of this.   Some have a narrator, or a conversation, or conflicting thoughts that they 'answer' this is indeed a voice although some don't feel they actually 'hear' it but rather percieve it in their minds.  However some, not realizing it, do hear as if the voice is outside of their heads.   I have had an entire 'committee' up there, discussing and arguing, asking and contributing or worrying, and then worry about worrying, and then having a whole discussion about the futility of that worrying and then wondering why... etc...  It can at times seem to get out of hand. 

In Buddhism, we have what are called the Five Aggregates or the Skandas.  These five parts are what make up 'us' or 'the self' they are constantly changing, depenent on each other and interdependent on the outside world.  We have form (the body), feelings (either pleasant, unpleasant or neurtral), perceptions/cognition (knoing of colors, thoughts, memories, plans, ideas, who you think you are.)  mental formations (such as desires, emotional level stuff, likes and dislikes, , judgements etc) and conciousness itself (it is awareness itself). . 

Some say to not listen to those voices and ignore them, some say to allow them to arrive, 'but don't give them a place to sit' so they just go, some say to listen and others say, 'sit with them, offer them tea and see what they are all about'.  Modern psychology and psychiatry sees it as an illness from the get go.  They see it as a need to induce intensive therapy, medication and even more drastic therapies such as ECT (Electro convulsive shock therapy). 

Working in progress... 

The Dalai Lama's tongue

 So, if you have not noticed, there is (once again) a little kerfuffle about H.H. The Dalai Lama and his actions with a young Indian boy that was in audience to him. First of all remember there are three sides to a story, 'first side', 'second side' and what actually happened.

One video chastized people of thinking wrong of the Dalai Lama ad defended him vigorously, posting the 'whole' video of the incident. However, they avoided the 'Suck my tongue' statement the Dalai Lama actually said... This is one side. People defend his actions no matter what evidence, saying he is infallable, a great guru, was joking, using 'crazy wisdom' and the like. https://youtu.be/bT0qey5Ts78

and https://youtu.be/oiOK0cNqcw8

Other videos are disparaging these actions and raising alarm. Stating this is clear child abuse, pedophilic actions etc. They are focusing on the 'Suck my tongue' quote and really pushing what they saw and believe has happened. https://youtu.be/2OyxRSm9oOM Most of these are more inflammatory and trying to get more clicks.

Now, take the middle road, centered path, etc... Just like Buddhism teaches. Right??

-No it is not a deep fake, using AI or what ever, the Dalal Lama's office did offer an apology (you can see it on his official site) Here... https://www.dalailama.com/news You don't offer an apology for a deep fake, you call it out...

-No it is not a cultural thing. Although there is a tradition of sticking a tongue out to prove it is not 'black' like that 9th century Tibetan King 'Lang Dharma'... Now there is apparently an old custom of sticking out the tongue as a 'hello' but clearly this was not that. There is no 'tongue sucking'... So there's that. Now people keep quoting the movie '7 years in Tibet' where there is a scene where both Brad Pitt (Henrick Herrer) and David Thewlis (Peter Aufschneiter) at about 40 minutes enter a bazarr and the people are clearly not saying hello, but sticking their tongues out as if (traditionally) to discourage evil spirits. i.e. white devils... LOL.... They both wonder about the action and David THewlis's character says, "must mean hello". https://journals.openedition.org/ateliers/10799 and https://factsanddetails.com/china/cat6/sub34/entry-8422.html There is not one mention of using the tongue to say hello, much less sucking one... LOL https://www.elephantjournal.com/2010/08/stick-your-tongue-out-at-tibetans/ Here, it is explained that it is a 'kind' of greeting that shows you are not the demon king Lang Dharma or one of his reincarnates. https://cross-currents.berkeley.edu/e-journal/issue-13/Bernard/photo/tibetan-greeting

The Chinese government must by almost giddy about this. Seeing the Dalai Lama topple or even stumble is a ripe opportunity to call him out as an abuser (even if untrue) to discredit his office and person. Wait for more of that I am sure.

Now the third side. The child's mother was two seats to the right hand side of the Dalai Lama, she had indeed met him (the Dalai Lama) previously. The child was a 'plant' or at least known to the group as he was sitting with his mother. Asked to hug the Dalai Lama... when this happened the audience laughs (I would kind of say hesitantly that it was an uncomfortable laugh). No one moved to stop any of it as I surmise there was confusion and it was such a short interaction. As well, good luck on going up there, he has a crack security team.

Watch the video, (I suggest the second one that defends him) there is indeed a playful interaction between the Dalai Lama and this child. Only when the Dalai Lama asked the child 'suck my tongue' the child seemed to be hesitant... That video though does not show the tongue incident. see it here... https://youtu.be/3BbCJyj6Njc

OK so now what? This is in no way in any experience I have had in Buddhism (Been practicing for well over 30 years, been a minister/priest for almost 20 and have worked with the United Nations regarding Buddhism itself, and worked with chaplains, monks, nuns, priests, etc... for that time. No where have I seen this. It was confusing and discouraging to see. I have interviewed hundreds of them Tibetan, Nepali, Burmese, Bhutanese, Indian etc.. all over that region, never once did anyone stick their tongue out to me or anything even similar, nor did I see it when they greeted any other monk, nun or laity.

But let's see what happens. See where it goes. My guess is the apology will be about it, the Dalai Lama will not be meeting with others in public or filmed for a little while until the dust clears. I am also waiting to see what the next explanation is from the office of HH the Dalai Lama.

ending, The Buddha said, 'There are three things that cannot be hidden for long, the Moon, the Sun, and the Truth...

so just wait. breathe. be calm, let's get more facts.

I don't follow the Dalai Lama, he is not my guru, but is the guru of my friends, I am worried for them. I hope they don't feel too badly about this. It was a foible... (I hope).

It also reminds me of the Buddha's advice to the Kalamas... read that too. https://www.thebuddhistsociety.org/page/advice-to-the-kalamas#:~:text=Rely%20on%20the%20truth%20the,mind%2C%20not%20on%20judgemental%20intellect.

Furthermore, there are many that left the Christian Church to get to Buddhism for the very reasons of exploitation and abuse of the young by priests.  Many Catholics are very discouraged and lost their faith.  Think if that same situation had happened with a priest or The Pope?!     This event is very triggering and concerning and rightfully so, but again, take some time to figure it out.  Some will leave Buddhism just because of this (albeit there are many many examples in almost every tradition of Buddhism that has some form of child endangerment, etc).  Some will become more devout because they will understand things differently and feel more piety and fervor for the Dalai Lama.  

The Bardo for a dog (shorter)

 This is a recap and repost but for Mila.  She passed into stillness March 13, 2023 at 2:45 pm.  

 The Bardo Prayers.

At the time of your own death, or at any time, request the Buddha’s and Bodhisattvas’ aid as follows; Make physical and mental offerings to the three jewels, and holding fragrant incense recite with great fervor.

(The offerings for the Buddhas and Bodhisattvas, Mahakalas (Dharma Protectors), Consorts, Devas and Dakinis can either be of the Tibetan style which would include the Eight offerings of; water to wash with, water to drink, flowers, incense, light, perfume, food to eat, and music (cymbals). As well as other offerings for other Mahakalas such as candy, meat, and liquor.   I use a more manageable and simple offering of; light, water, incense, a flower and food.  You will also be offering your service and honoring of the Triple Gem which includes the tisarana chant and three prostrations.  Also on the altar is the photo or name of the deceased.  I did this at the mini altar we have on the mantle with the ashes of Shadow in the center.)

"Buddhas and bodhisattvas dwelling the ten directions, endowed with great compassion, wisdom, vision, and love.  You, who are the refuge and protectors of beings, through your great compassion please come to this place.  Please accept these offerings set out for you.

Compassionate ones, you have mastered to an unimaginable extent, wisdom, loving compassion, and skillful action.  This person, Mila is going beyond this world to another and is abandoning this world.  Mila is at death’s door, without friends or family, in great suffering, without refuge, protectors or relatives or friends.  Mila's life perceptions are fading away, going to a different realm.

Mila is entering a dense darkness, falling to a great abyss, going into a thick forest, the forces of karma drives her off to an empty wasteland, tossed in great waves.  Impelled by this karmic wind finds him/herself with nowhere to stop and rest, finds herself in the midst and mist of a great battle, seized by demons. 

The lord of death’s minions fills him/her with terror, from one existence he/she goes to yet another, helpless and afraid.

Alone and friendless, the time is here where she must go.  Oh, compassionate ones, please give refuge to Mila, for she has no defense, no friends or family to help her now, please protect her and be those things to her now.

Please, with your great compassion save her from the vast darkness of the bardo.

Shieldher from the great winds of karma, protect him/her from the terrors of the Lord of Death.  Deliver Mila from the long polluted bardo.

Compassionate ones, please be generous with your compassion and come toher aid.  Do not let him/her go to the three lower realms, guide them from Samsara.

Quickly show the power of your compassion, remember your vows to help.  Please be generous in your compassion and commitment for Mila.  Hold him tight with your compassion, do not leave him/her to the forces of negative karma. 

Please save him/her from the suffering of the bardo.

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Root of the Bardo.

Oh, now that the bardo of birth is arising for me, I abandon laziness for which there is no time in this life, I shall ender the undistracted path of listening, reflection, contemplation, and meditation.  I shall develop appearances and mind as the path, I shall actualize the three kayas: the body of truth, bliss and emanation.

Now, for once I have obtained the blessing of a human body, there is no time to rest on the path of distraction. 

Oh, the bardo of dreams arises for me, abandoning the careless, sleeping corpse of ignorance, I shall guide my undistracted mind to the natural state, taking control of my dreams, may purify delusion into clear bright light.   I will not sleep like an animal; it is important to practice sleep and direct perceptions of reality together.

Oh, now the bardo of meditation arises for me, I abandon the mass of distractions and confusion, I enter the states free of the extremes like distraction and grasping, I will attain stability in the development and completion stages, and jhanas.  I abandon activity that is pointless, I will practice one-pointed meditation.  I will not fall to the power of delusion and negativity.

Oh, now the bardo of death arises for me.  I abandon all attachment, grasping and clinging. I am undistracted, I enter into clear understanding of the instructions I have heard.  I transfer my own awareness into the sphere of the space of the unborn.  As I am about to be parted from this body of flesh and blood, I realize it is and illusion and is impermanent.  I abandon panic and perceptions of terror as they too are illusion and I recognize whatever arises for me as the natural manifestations of my own awareness.  I understand and realize that this is the way the bardo appears.  An important moment will arise when cessation is possible, I will not fear the throng of peaceful and wrathful deities as they are the manifestation of my mind.

Oh the bardo of becoming again is arising for me.  I hold in my mind one-pointed longing, I will try and prolong my good karma.  Stopping up the entrance to the womb, I remember to turn away from it.  It is now that I must have courage, determination, and pure perception.  I abandon jealousy and anger; I will meditate on the great teacher in union with his consort.  I will not think on death but on a long life.  Realizing that I had accomplished only pointless and unskillful activities in this life I know I would be unwise to return now, empty handed.   I recognize the cure to my ailments is the Dharma teachings.  I vow to practice the dharma at this moment, now.  If I can keep the words of my teachers to heart, I will not betray myself. 

May the verses of this bardo as I speak to them not come to an end until I have gone beyond Samsara and all of Samsara is emptied.

Prayer for deliverance from the narrow passage of the bardo.

"I pay homage to my teachers, the manifestations of the Buddha mind and the host of dakinis that help me. With your great love and compassion, please guide me well on the path of luminous, undistracted listening.  May I reflect and meditate on your teachings.  Supported and protected by all the mothers of the past and all the dakinis to help me, may I be delivered from the narrow and frightening passage of the bardo.  Escort me to the land of the pure light, to perfect Buddhahood.  When I wander from intense ignorance through the realms of Samsara, Buddha (Vairocana) please guide me on the luminous path of the wisdom for the Dharamdhatu.  Guided by your consort Dhatisvari, deliver me from that terrifying passage.  Escort me together to the pure land of Buddhahood.   If I find that I am aggressive and angry in the wanderings of Samsara, please Buddha (Vajrasattva) guide me on the mirror like path of luminous wisdom.  Gently guided by your consort Buddhalocana deliver me from this narrow, terrifying passage.  Escort me to the land of the totally pure Buddhahood.  If I wander in Samsara with pride and arrogance, I beg Buddha Ratnasambhava to guide me on the luminous path of Equalizing Wisdom.  Gently supported by Mamaki, your consort delivers me from the terrifying narrow passage of the bardo. Escort me to the land of perfect Buddhahood.   If am found wandering with desire and attachment in Samsara, please Buddha Amitabha, guide me on the luminous path of the Wisdom of discernment.  Gently supported by your consort, Pandavarasini, deliver me from the terrifying narrow passage of the bardo.  Escort me to the land of the totally pure, perfect Buddhahood.   If I travel Samsara jealous, please, Buddha Amoghasiddi guide me well on the luminous path of All accomplishing wisdom.  Gently your consort, Samaya-tara help deliver me from the terrifying and narrow passage of the bardo.  Escort me to the land of totally pure and perfect Buddhahood.

If I wander Samsara with strong habits and tendencies may the dakas and Vidyadharas guide me on the luminous path of co-emergent wisdom.   Deliver me from the bardo’s terrifying narrow passage.  Escort me to the land of pure, perfect Buddhahood.

When I am wandering in delusion in Samsara, may the army of peaceful and wrathful deities guide me on the luminous path that abandons panic and terrifying appearances.  Supported and protected by the army of dakinis who control space, deliver me from the bardo’s terrifying narrow passages.  Escort me to the land of totally pure, perfect Buddhahood.

Oh, may the space element not arise as an enemy to me, may I see it as the pure realm of the blue Buddha.  May the water element not be an enemy to me, may I see it as the pure realm of the white Buddha.  May the earth element not be an enemy to me, may I see it as the pure realm of the yellow Buddha.  May the element of fire not be an enemy to me, may I see it as the pure realm of the red Buddha.  May the wind element not be an enemy to me, may I see it as the pure realm of the green Buddha.  May the rainbow element not be an enemy to me, may I see it as the pure realm of the various Buddhas.  May the sounds and lights not arise as enemies to me, may I see them as the pure realm of all-encompassing peaceful and wrathful deities.  May I realize the sounds to be my own sounds, the lights to be my own lights, the rays to be my own rays.  May I recognize the bardo to be my own manifestation and appearance, and may I realize the pure realm of the three kayas of truth, bliss, and emanation.  

The prayer that protects from fear in the bardo.

"Oh, when this life of mine has fallen apart, time does not vanish from this world.  I wander alone in the bardo but the victorious peaceful and wrathful deities show me the power of their compassion and dispel the darkness of ignorance.   As I wander alone from my friends and family the empty reflections of my own perceptions will arise, but the Buddhas show the power of their compassion to me so that the panic and terror of the bardo do not occur for me.  When the five lights of the clear wisdoms arise, may I be fearless and undaunted, recognizing them as my own manifestations of appearance. When the forms of the peaceful and wrathful deities arise to scare me, may I be fearless and confident, knowing that this is the bardo and that the compassionate one’s guide and protect me.   When, due to my negative karma I experience suffering, may the victorious peaceful and wrathful deities dispel the suffering.  When the natural sound of the Dharmata roars and sounds as loud as a thousand thunderclaps, may I be transformed into the sound of the dharma of the Great Vehicle.  When without any refuge I am pursued by karma, the victorious and wrathful deities become a refuge for me and all others.    When I experience the karma of suffering of my habitual tendencies, may the blissful clear light of samadhi arise.  At the moment of seeming rebirth in the bardo of becoming occurs, may no negative signs arise to turn me back to Samsara.  When I am transported anywhere by the power of thought may the delusions of terror of negative karma not occur.  When wild beasts roar, growl and hiss may it be transformed into the sound of the Dharma.  The six-syllable mantra.  When I am soaked by cold rain and snow, driven and whipped by wind and covered in darkness may I obtain the divine eye of clear wisdom.  Mya the different kinds of beings in the bard, with their various experiences and great compassion be without jealousy and be born in higher realms.  When negativity and extreme emotion causes hunger and thirst, may the suffering of thirst, hunger, heat and cold not occur.  As soon as I see my future parents in union, creating me, may I see them as the victorious peaceful and wrathful beings in union.  I will obtain control over where I will be born for the sake of others.  May I obtain a supreme body, graced with marks and signs that are auspicious.  Having been born with a supreme body, may all who see or hear me be quickly liberated.  May whatever merit I have accumulated increase and follow me.  Wherever and whoever I am born as, may I encounter the deity of my previous life.  As soon as I am born, may I be able to speak and walk, and regain without forgetting again, the memory of my past lives.   May I learn great, small and medium things by studying or even just seeing or hearing them.  May all sentient beings become happy and free from suffering, may I be like the medicine, the nurse, the shade tree, the bridge to help them out of Samsara.  Victorious peaceful and wrathful deities, just as your bodies, your entourage, your lifespan, and your pure realm, and just as your supreme and excellent marks all are, may I and others become like that.  By the compassion and power of the perfect peaceful and wrathful beings, and the power and truth of the completely pure Dharmata, and by the blessing of accomplishing single pointed mantra practice may the wishes of this prayer be realized and accomplished.  May the prayer that protects from fear in the bardos never end until Samsara is empty, and all beings have been emancipated from all sufferings.

I will continue this post with a day by day chanting and ceremonial set.  These are NOT the traditional Bardo Thodol that a monk would do.  They are MY rendition as I was trained in Theravada and Mahayana processes as well as Vajrayana.  I am a non-sectarian Buddhist Minister/Priest and am not bound by lineage or tradition. I am able to use what is best understandable and useful to me and my parishioners.   I stand to hold space and intent in the practice, not follow only traditional ceremony.  I use this to help in understanding and development of compassion, loving kindness, and wisdom.  I do this writing for my own development and process, no insult or harm is intended.  Forgive me if it does.